I have this girlfriend who's been dating her boyfriend for over a year now, but before we get into him, I'd like to start off with saying I've know her for over 4 years and I know she is one of those good hearted people who are rare. She is very sweet and not to mention extremely tolerant to ignorant people, i.e. her boyfriend. Considering I also am in a relationship I know how hard it may be to have the time to squeeze everyone in your live especially when you go to school, work and live on your own, its not that easy.But besides the fact that me and my girlfriend didn't see each other often I noticed she wasn't seeing anyone often, most of her friends had contact with her, and her prince charming made it impossible to talk to any other males but himself. I could see myself in her.
When it came for her birthday party in Niagara falls, I thought it would be a chance to spend some time with her and see whats going on in her world. Luckily she had invited a bunch of people. I was hoping that i could sneak away with her for a while just to ask hows it going, how come she's losing contact with everyone.
That night in Niagara, We all headed down to the casino, but as i walked in with my boyfriend she walked out crying and following her boyfriend, he didn't want to take part in anything when I ask him what the hell's going on he says"i don't wanna go clubbing, I just want to chill at the hotel" wow...its her birthday! That whole weekend in Niagara upsetted her, it wasn't her fault though. It was his. He was one of those controlling, possessive, and a little bit psycho,so called boyfriends. She was a sweet girl who believed his words and this is how relationship can get a little dangerous. I felt sorry that I hadn't said anything to her about it, I mean, I'm one of her best friends of four years. There should be some truth to that.
We continued talking for the past week, I didn't pressure her to do or say anything, just gave her advice and prayed that she would see what everyone is seeing. I could tell she was starting to get sick of him chilling at her apartment, ignoring her and playing video games all day(I dint know how she put up with that, I would of booted him out, day1). But then i guess it clicked and she took everything in her own hands, she told him she was fed up! and gave him no tears to see. I have to say I'm proud of her, not just because she stuck up for herself, but because she didn't allow herself to remain a victim of a dangerous relationship.
Its nice that you were there for her, and let her know that you had ligitimate fear about the way her relationship was progressing. That can be a really hard thing to do and can be a bit a sticky situation if handled wrong.
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Wow Felicia, I'm speechless in a way with the action you have done. Your an amazing person and I could say something about the situation but I believe this is something were words shouldn't be spoken
ReplyDeleteRelationships. I hate them haha. Honestly I know many people who have experienced guys like this, myself included, and it really isn't fun. Some advice you may like to give her for the future.. You need to show the guy that you are with that you can be content with OR without him, that you don't need him in order for you to feel satisfied. Don't revolve your world around him because if he ever walks out on you, or if the relationship just isn't working out, you are going to be left alone in self-pity. You are your OWN person and when you have a boyfriend in your life, he is just a bonus; like an accessary. You need to focus on yourself, on your life, and what YOU want. No one is ever always going to be there for you no matter what they say or what they promise you. In the end, it's yourself and only yourself. Make sure that you are all you believe in, don't rely on a guy completely because chances are he may disappoint you in the worst way. Also, make sure you are steady on your own two feet before giving yourself up to someone. He needs to see that you are stable and that you know exactly what you want in life. And make sure you let her know that one day, a guy WILL appreciate her for everything she does, she just needs to be patient. Most importantly, the best advice I can give any girl who has gone through heartache and pain; for the future, approach new relationships with CAUTION, and GAURD YOUR HEART. Don't give your all to a guy so fast because he will take advantage. Remember to love yourself because you are all you have. Xo.
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